Year two of holiday parties in sobriety, and a perfect opportunity to put some knowledge into practice. A few tips I learned from trial and error last year but many were learned right here from my fellow sober bloggers. Each and every one of you are deeply appreciated. Hurrah for collective wisdom!
December 2014 saw quite a few holiday celebrations right here at home including a staff party, book club dinner party, Christmas Eve dinner with extended family, and a three family Christmas dinner fete. Home was a good place to be. For one, hostessing kept me busy taking care of others. The other key to celebrating at home is that it allows me to envision and carry out a plan without many curve balls thrown in.
The 3 keys to hosting parties and having great fun while sober this year turned out to be:
1. Have a plan. In early sobriety we spend a whole lot of time making plans. What time will people arrive and leave? What will I drink? What will others drink? Where can I get away for ten minutes from time to time to read recovery literature and refocus? Who is my support team at the event? Have I clarified their roles with them? Which AA meeting will I attend the day of the event?
2. Have another person handle the alcohol. Don’t play the part of the suffering hero. Just have someone else be the bartender. At the end of the event, have the bartender pack up the bar and toss out the half finished drinks laying around. That person will be glad to help.
3. Have fun. Taking the time, making the time, to celebrate with friends is a new concept in my life. Focusing on others helps me get out of my head which would normally be focused on the alcohol with laser vision, and opens up the world to the people in my life. Turns out my world was so small when drinking and I missed out on the amazingness around me. Its time to enjoy friendship again.
Coming soon: the backstory of these keys. Because we all know, there’s always a backstory!